If you used to be a reader of SuperStippy.com this will seem a bit familiar to you. If not, great. Either way I think you should take the time to give it a read today.
We have a problem saying thank you. Because we have a problem saying thank you, many of us have a problem receiving a thank you. I don’t think we have any issue saying the actual words. We say them all the time. To a waiter or waitress, to a spouse when they do something for us, to a friend when they’ve helped us out. We say a cursory “Thanks” without eye contact and in our best mumble more times a day than I care to think about.
No, our issue is with genuine, sincere thanks to another person.
Over the last few semesters I’ve had a few classes that I seem to miss (for real reasons – I don’t skip), and there’s been a person in each of those classes that has taken notes for me when I’ve been gone. In 2013 it’s not a huge deal to give someone notes they missed. Most people type them and all they have to do is copy and paste it into an e-mail. But it’s still a bit out of the way of their normal activity.
So I buy them Sonic gift cards and a thank you card. It’s not much, but it’s more than an obligatory “thanks” under the breath and then being moved on from.
Hillary and I also try to do this when someone watches Dobby for us. We’re rarely gone for more than 24-36 hours, so all we need is someone to come let him out to go to the bathroom a few times, and eat once or twice until we get back. I’t never for very long, and it doesn’t take much, but we’re still incredible thankful for the people who have been bale to do it for us over the past year.
So we buy them Sonic gift cards. Again, it’s not much but we want people to know how thankful we are.
We’re working more and more to make thankfulness and gratitude a part of who we are.
More often than not though, there’s a bit of resistance from the person we’re thanking. I even got made fun of by mutual friends of someone who took notes for me. I got made fun of for trying to show appreciation. It blows my mind.
Like I said, we’re just now working to make this a part of who we are and we’re by no means perfect at it, or do it every time we should. But we’re working at it.
Being intentionally thankful about some things has made me aware of all the things I have to be thankful for. I’m willing to bet it can do the same for you.
I’f you’ve go a Case of the Mondays right now, I’d challenge you to think about how thankful and grateful you are on a regular basis. Spend some time thinking of the things people have done for you lately and make time to actually thank them in some way shape or from. When you start making thankfulness a part of your daily routine you might be surprised at all the things you have to be thankful for.
What’s the most memorable thanks you’ve ever gotten? How can you “pay it forward” to someone else?
Grace & Peace,